As the mother of two girls, I have often had people telling me about the importance of having a son. So last week I decided to discuss the subject with several people I know, young and told, to understand where exactly this preference for boys comes from. Needless to say, I was appalled by the answers I got.
When I was expecting my elder one, the highly respected dowagers of my neighbourhood would always spare a few moments to survey the shape of my pregnant belly to adjudge whether a boy or girl floated inside. The verdict would then be passed: "Mubarak ho, lag raha he pehla bachcha ladka hi hoga (Congratulations, looks like your first born is going to be a boy)." I'd usually politely brush aside this kind of statement with a polite smile. My husband and I were far more concerned about the health of the pregnancy and the delivery rather than gender. Of course, I proved the old ladies' prediction wrong and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Their first reaction post delivery was, "Yeh kaise ho gaya? Tumne Krishnaji ki puja ki hoti tho aaj Bal Krishna tere godh mein khel rahe hote (How did this happen? If you had worshipped Lord Krishna, today a baby boy would have been in your arms)." When I was expecting my second baby, my household seemed somewhat tense, with the exception of me and my husband. My parents-in-law wanted their dear son to have a son. It was of importance to them. When my second daughter was born, no one said anything. The celebration was kept to a minimum and the air of disappointment was palpable.This is probably the story in many more households. People don't always neglect the baby girl once she is born, but a male child is often preferred. And these kinds of individuals are present in every strata of society—it doesn't matter whether they are educated or not, it doesn't matter if they are in their 30s or in their 60s. The thought still prevails.